Losing your toy virginity

Remember that time you lost your virginity? Were you nervous? Scared? Excited? A little uncomfortable? Probably. Unless you experienced sex toys before real sex, it's possible, whether you're a man or a woman, that you felt the exact same way before trying your first toy as well.

If you are someone who's lost their virginity, but has never experienced sex toys before, I'll tell you one thing straight: it's not as big a deal as you make it.

You may be nervous because you think toys are bad for your health. Well think again. Sexologists and sex experts have researched that masturbation is good for you. And whether that involves your hand, your partner's hand, or a little (or big) silicone dildo, is completely irrelevant. Now, I'm not saying ALL masturbations practices are 100% safe and advised. For instance, sticking a 12-inch dildo into your anus may not exactly be healthy because it could cause fissures and infections. However, as a beginner, Edenfantasys offers lots of "beginner" toys that are simple and to the point. They're self-explanatory, so no need to feel pressure!

Do you think you'd feel uncomfortable, even ashamed to admit you use toys? EVERYONE MASTURBATES. You are not special. You are not as particular as you imagine. Everyone does it, so don't worry about it. If they think YOU'RE the freak, then it's their problem to begin with.

I was compensated with a Edenfantasys gift card for writing this post. I am an Eden Ambassador, not a reviewer. All thoughts are my honest opinions.

Lubricants

Most people use lubricants for sex (including oral, anal, and vaginal) because it helps ease the pain associated with penetration. For the most part, lube is meant for girls, but sometimes guys appreciate it for the non-chafing as well. Why do I use lube? I do enjoy the ease that comes with penetration of course (you know that slick, slippery feeling during sex, rather than burning sensation) but I also enjoy the flavour of lubricants. Even if they're not flavoured, they taste better than say, saliva!

There are plenty of options for lubricants at Edenfantasys. I'll highlight some of my favourites.

Each of these lubes are special in some sort of way. Some of them are water-based, which is fantastic because I can pretty much use them with any condom in any situation. Water rinses out easily so sex-on-the-go and sex-on-the-couch is fine because there won't be any embarrassing stains left behind! Some are flavoured, and like I said, I like my flavoured lubes! Some are oil-based or silicone-based, which I don't use as much because they're not very condom-compatible, but on a very special day where I DON'T need to use condoms (i.e.: my partner's birthday, lol), I use these for the shower or bath since they won't wash off like a water-based lube.

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How to Orgasm

I know lots of women have trouble orgasming by masturbation, so I'll tell you my tips and tricks.

1. Set the mood. Lights off, candles on, water running - whatever gets you aroused. The last place an orgasm will happen is somewhere totally unsexy, such as just sitting on a chair. Make sure you are comfortable, and make sure you are suiting yourself
2. Prepare yourself. If you are using sex toys -- dildos especially -- it make take time to "warm" yourself up. I suggest try something fun and casual, such as the Better than Chocolate from Edenfantasys. Just the look of it makes me feel looser and sexier and like I want to orgasm!
3. Slowly stimulate your clitoris and vulva - these are erogenous zones (clitoris especially, as it is a bundle of thousands of nerves) that make for easy orgasms. You can use the Better than Chocolate since it is a vibrator. Place it on your clitoris and see where it takes you. If the vibrations are too strong for you to the point of pain, try placing a wet washcloth between you and the vibrator the dull the sensation. Run it under hot or ice cold water to play around with sensory.
4. If you feel up do it, insert a dildo or bullet/vibe into your vagina. Mimick a real penis, or use a pretty phallic dildo. Try to make it feel as close to real sex as possible - this will further elevate your mood, making you orgasm better.

Hope these tips help. Of course everyone's body is different so it's understandable if my tips don't work specifically for you. Don't ever feel like you're doing anything wrong because only you can really locate what you like best!

I was compensated with a Edenfantasys gift card for writing this post. I am an Eden Ambassador, not a reviewer. All thoughts are my honest opinions.